1. I can't recall if I've ever blogged about this guy before or not. It's probably been about five years, if not more since we went out. I'm not even sure you can call it a date, because we were with my best friend. We just went to some restaurant downtown. I do recall that he was a huge pain in my ass. He bitched the whole night. Since that night, we have never gone out again. He's emailed me on various social media sites. Sometimes I ignore him, sometimes I humor him and respond. Back in June, he asked me to dinner. The first night we had plans was on a Wednesday. For some reason, he had to go to Marion, Indiana, but had planned on being back in time for the dinner he asked me to. Long story short, he got caught in the rain, under a bridge, with no cell service and couldn't text me. Despite his ridiculous excuse, I gave him a second chance and made plans to go to dinner on a Friday night. He was to be off work at 6:00 and meet me there at 7:00. I confirmed the time with him at about 6:30. He tells me he just got home from work and had to shower. Not sure at what point he was going to tell me this. I flat out told him I wasn't waiting all night. At 7:50 (my cutoff time was going to be 8:00), he called me and said he was ready and he'd meet me there. I got to my car and he called me - he said his brother needed to borrow his car and would I mind just picking him up. I told him I would mind. So, I get to the restaurant at about 8:05. I waited ten minutes and texted him. He told me that he would be there shortly. What the fuck does "shortly" mean? I finally called him and he tells me that he had to take his brother somewhere and he was on his way. I asked him where he was at, and he said downtown on Jefferson. By now, I've waited 25 minutes; I left. Yep, sure did. Do NOT make plans with me and then do ten other things first. I'm not wasting anymore of my time on you. Now, maybe in my 20's, I would have sat there and waited for him. I probably would have been a bitch throughout dinner, but I would have waited. Guys, if you make plans with a girl, it's OK to tell your boys that you have plans. Grow some balls, OK? Since that night, I've ignored his messages. He'll email me and tell me I'm stuck up and why can't I respond to him. I had gotten a text one night and didn't know the number. I responded and asked who it was. Never got a text back. The number wasn't on my deleted list on my carrier's website. I got to work the next day and typed in his number on Facebook, and his profile showed up. He was to embarrassed to respond to me when I asked who it was. Sorry, I didn't save your number in my phone. Yesterday, he emails me again and asks how my weekend was. I wrote back and told him he was very persistent. I don't have our messages saved, so I can't write out verbatim what was said, but he basically told me I'm too uptight, life is too short, and that I hold grudges and/or don't forgive people. Oh, and the best part? He told me I'm always going to be single if I'm going to act like this. Then, I blocked him. Thus, the reason I don't have a copy of our conversation. Again, I fully admit to being a pain in the ass. BUT, this is not me being a pain in the ass. This is me requiring that if a man wants to ask me out, he's going to show up on time and he's not going to waste my time. I'm not choosing to hold a grudge or not forgive him. I am just choosing to not give him yet another chance to waste my time. I even asked him how many chances did he need to show up to dinner? Damn. If I had the energy, I should have emailed him back and said well if you're going to continue wasting people's time, you're always going to be single. I know he just said that because he's a douche and doesn't know how to treat a woman, but don't be a dick and tell me I'm always going to be single. That is what's wrong with our society. No one knows how to treat people anymore.
2. I really liked this guy that I was dating back in July. I even blogged about it here. I realize I didn't go into much detail about the situation at the time, and I'm still not going to. It's been a few weeks, but I did block him from Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and my actual phone. Nothing specific happened, it just needed to be done so I could focus on not focusing on him 24/7. Well, Saturday, he emailed me on the dating website (one place I forgot about). I responded back and then he told me to call him. I never did. Yesterday, I get an email that says "Will you talk to me!!!!" So, I called him. He wanted to tell me that he did move into an apartment with a roommate and even took my advice and didn't move into the apartment he was going to. He said his next task was to get a car. He said that he's doing this for me (well some of it). He said that he wished I wouldn't give up on him so easily and I would be patient with him. I'm not stupid -- this dude has got all the right things to say. But, his actions never live up to his words. Later that night, he texted me...we went back and forth a bit and I just stopped responding. He texted me 20 mins later and was kind of in a tizzy that I wasn't responding. Then, he says "I just hate the way u make me work or fight you." I said, "I'm not trying to. I know I deserve the best. I deserve to be treated the way you treated me the first few weeks. I want to walk around with a smile on my face. I want those butterflies. And, I won't accept anything but that. I haven't been single for 9 years to settle." He didn't have a response. Yes, I'll make you work for it. You lied and just turned into a huge douche bag there at the end. I'm not letting you back into my life because you send one email, or we have one conversation.
If I can't find a man to treat me the way I deserve to be treated whether some think those standards are too high, then I guess I will be single forever. I would much rather be single than be treated like shit.
On another much funnier note, I can 100% fully admit that the dating website has nothing but a bunch of hot messes. Over the weekend, one guy told me his son lives here in Fort Wayne (he lives in Indy). I asked him if that was his only kid. He said no. He has 10 kids and 6 are biological. I wrote back "that's a lot." WTF do you say to that? And, what the hell does it mean that only 6 are biological. OMG, I died laughing. Then a 30 year old guy proceeds to tell me that he too has two jobs. When I asked what he does for work, he said he worked at Fazolis. Wait. What? Fazolis? And, what about the "other" job. I couldn't even respond.
Let me clarify too that I don't care if you work at McDonald's because you're going through a hard time. My struggle with this is that you need to get your life in order first before trying to date. I've said this before and I'll say it again. I was unemployed twice for almost a year both times. During that time, the last thing on my mind was dating. I mean, of course, I wanted to date, but what was I going to tell the guy? What did I have to offer him?
I just don't get boys. Get your shit together first and then work on finding a girl.
If I can't find a man to treat me the way I deserve to be treated whether some think those standards are too high, then I guess I will be single forever. I would much rather be single than be treated like shit.
On another much funnier note, I can 100% fully admit that the dating website has nothing but a bunch of hot messes. Over the weekend, one guy told me his son lives here in Fort Wayne (he lives in Indy). I asked him if that was his only kid. He said no. He has 10 kids and 6 are biological. I wrote back "that's a lot." WTF do you say to that? And, what the hell does it mean that only 6 are biological. OMG, I died laughing. Then a 30 year old guy proceeds to tell me that he too has two jobs. When I asked what he does for work, he said he worked at Fazolis. Wait. What? Fazolis? And, what about the "other" job. I couldn't even respond.
Let me clarify too that I don't care if you work at McDonald's because you're going through a hard time. My struggle with this is that you need to get your life in order first before trying to date. I've said this before and I'll say it again. I was unemployed twice for almost a year both times. During that time, the last thing on my mind was dating. I mean, of course, I wanted to date, but what was I going to tell the guy? What did I have to offer him?
I just don't get boys. Get your shit together first and then work on finding a girl.
No comments:
Post a Comment