30 Day Blog Challenge - Day 6

I love today's challenge.  It's not so much of a question as it is a statement.  "Every woman has the exact love life she wants." 

I 100% agree with this.  I don't want the love life that I have.  I think what I've yet to come to grips with is that I am 34 years old, I have been in my career for 13 years, and I've lived on my own for about 16 years.  What I'm trying to say is that I am an adult, dammit.  And, I need to start looking for an adult relationship.  

I also think that having the exact love life you want goes hand-in-hand with teaching people the way you want and should be treated.  Seems like common sense, no?  

I think woman (and men) who are in unhealthy relationships choose to stay in those relationships because they fear being alone or because it's just easier than having to start over. The Single Woman tweeted recently, "Someone hurting you over and over again isn't a mistake, it's a lifestyle choice. Love yourself enough to let them go." Again, common sense, no? 

I used to be that girl who sat on the couch with full-on makeup, dressed to the nines, hair done waiting for the phone to ring.  I would stay like that till 10, 11, 12 at night. Now, I sit on the couch in my pj's, hair in a pony tail, and no makeup.  If a guy wants to spend time with me, he needs to make a plan with me.  I get spur of the moment plans and don't get me wrong, I like those. But, if we're going to go out on a date, then make plans with me.  I'm not waiting by the phone until you get done doing whatever it is that you need to do.  A lot of this goes hand-in-hand with my being stood up and men breaking/changing plans on me.  My point is that if I allow a guy to call whenever he's done doing what he's doing, then I'm allowing him to treat me that way. If I require plans be made then that will tell him that I am not going to be his 2nd, 3rd, 4th choice for the evening. Joey, my last boyfriend, was never on time.  Never.  I would get so mad at him for being late.  I remember one time, I was tired of waiting and I left.  I want to say we were going to my parents' house for dinner or something.  So, I just left. Told him he could meet me over there. It was just a continued cycle of him being late, my getting mad, and my having to get over it because what was I going to do about it? So, I started leaving when he'd be late.  

The older I've gotten, the less I put up with.  Obviously, you grow up and you have different expectations of what a relationship should be like.  Over the years I've had to learn and am continuing to learn what I want in a guy.  I'm trying to learn how to set my boundaries in the beginning as far as how I will allow someone to treat me.  

In the end-all, I need to work on looking for an adult relationship and setting those boundaries from the very beginning.