Monday, March 7, 2016

Independent Women

An article popped up on my Facebook page titled Reasons Why Independent Women Need Someone to Love. Wait. What? Doesn't everyone need love? I admit, the article itself provided a good list. BUT, why is there this misconception that if a woman is independent, she doesn't need love in her life? It's the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard quite honestly. I had a guy tell me once that men date down. That men want to feel superior in the relationship. Just because I have my own house, car, and two jobs does NOT mean I don't want or need love in my life. A man can still take care of me, it just doesn't have to be financially. Men, if you think you will be inferior to a woman just because she can financially take care of herself, here's a list of other things you can do for us:

  • To encourage us and convince us every now and then to evolve and get better
  • To share with us the facts we often cannot see
  • To give us a different perspective of the decisions we are about to make or made in the past
  • To tell us we are not alone
  • To open the door with a smile on their face when we come home
  • To make our home feel like home
  • To walk us home when we are not strong enough to walk
  • To ask us about our doubts and clear them
  • To make us feel good
  • To tell us we are strong and they love us just like that
  • To zip us and unzip us
  • To help us decide between chocolate and vanilla
  • To not tell us we will get fat when we eat the whole meal in seconds
  • To look at us and appreciate our presence silently
  • To travel with us and make the experience worthwhile
  • To share a large pizza with us (AND, to order the pizza. I strongly dislike ordering pizza)
  • To treat us well and respect other women too
  • To call us out to admit something we have been ignoring for a long time
  • To laugh with us at ourselves
  • To be comfortable with them, enough to do all kinds of silly things
  • To ask them to help us out
  • To fall asleep with them
  • To wake up beside them every morning
  • To share an apartment with them and every other possession
  • To spend holidays together
  • To help us fix stuff that we don’t know how to fix
  • To give us examples and predict the results of situations we are stepping in
  • To let us be weak and vulnerable without judging us
  • To love us when are not being loveable
  • To understand why we are being unlovable
  • To not force their presence upon us but to make sure we will always have their support
  • To share with us their life so that we know how differently independent they are
  • To sit with us and drink at the end of a long day
  • To tell us we have something between our teeth
  • To help us decide what we should wear on the big day
  • To help us with grocery shopping
  • To help us decide if someone is actually being a jerk or not
  • To be our mirror and tell us what we lack and what we possess more than enough
  • To be our reality check
  • To remind us every now and then that fairytales are not real
  • To encourage us to take stand for ourselves
  • To not consider us a maniac for shouting when we are angry
  • To understand that women can be equally stressed as men
  • To understand that we do not cry all the time
  • To accept the fact our professionalism can be better than men’s at times
  • To appreciate our independence and never judge it
  • To anticipate what we need when all we want to do is jump in bed and cry all night
  • And lastly, to be there for us. 
Being independent should be looked at as a good thing. I truly believe that my independence has made it even harder for me to find someone. I really do believe it scares men off. Quite honestly, I don't want a man who can't appreciate my independence. 

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